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“Perfect Romance” Has this been a reality or am I dreaming?

The most beautiful thing is to have a man who can make you feel like art. Make me feel like a woman. Your grown man characteristics and godliness causes me to feel safe so that I can maintain my grace. Tell me I’m beautiful. Grab my arm and tell me not to run from you, but to run to you. When I roll my eyes, you have no problem with it. You told me that it’s "stubborn/humble submission to you"… While you date me and I test your heart, let’s honor the Lord in this situation and keep ourselves until marriage. But don’t make me wait for this marriage for too long because the passion for you is burning me.
I want to give you more now because you’re healing me. The words you’ve released to my mind have traveled to my heart healing the wounds of what I thought was so right but what was oh so wrong. The healing then communicates with my mind storing your face in my subconscious to show me who’s responsible for this healing love. I’m now dreaming of you. The seeds that you’ve planted in my ears have me smitten. You told me that you want your children to come through a special portal and that the mother of your children is more than someone you sleep with. They’re the portal of where your seed is released.
The way you think makes me think bigger and deeper. The questions I’ve asked while dating others were frustrating because they didn’t have the answers. But you’ve given me answers without me asking. You’ve told me that strong women scare weak men away. You’re okay with me fussing because you know that I’m not trying to be your "momma" but your woman who knows the potential of her man. No nagging, just the best friend that wants the best for her friend. Amazing…I’m speechless. Where will this go? I’m interested in knowing. God is amazing.
If this doesn’t last forever, or if you’re not the one, at least God will have shown me that it’s possible to be loved the way I want to be loved. It’s not so complicated after all. It’s only complicated to someone who doesn’t have it to give. You’re not afraid to have an established coach to help lead you where your absent father didn’t. That inspires me!
You didn’t give up on love because of the cold heart of another. You’re king. I’ve learned why it’s important to do it God’s way. When we play house and the season is up, it’s hard to break away and listen to God because I then am practicing a divorce.
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I lied! “Redefining Success”

Sometimes we put the pressure on ourselves by watching everyone else on social media, in our lives, careers, etc. We often compare ourselves and let the world tell us what success is. We’ll even actually be convinced that our purpose is something other than what we initially thought after having gone through life and feeling like it’s taking forever to get there.
I’ve come to grips with the fact that "just because she’s beautiful doesn’t make me unbeautiful… (yes I totally made that word up)" LOL it just means that we are both beautiful. Someone else’s success doesn’t take away from my success unless I let it. The inspiration from Oprah and Gayle’s relationship is how they are both powerful women but they’re not defeated by who is greater. Each person on this earth is great in their own right.
When thinking of a chair, what’s the legs to the chair without the seat on top of the legs? Everyone has a purpose. Both the legs and the seat are necessary to make the chair a successful/useful piece. How petty would it be for the legs of the chair to think that the seat is of greater substance all because it sits on top of the legs? I mean, just think of the legs saying, "I’d rather be up their than to hold all of this weight of both the seat and the person…" With a mindset like this, the legs of the chair wouldn’t see the beauty of its strength and how powerful its purpose is. It’s senseless. If both aren’t there to fulfill their purpose, no one can comfortably sit; or else they’d just need to sit on the floor. The point of this is, there’s room for everyone.
Comparing ourselves to the next person only steals our joy, causes us to lose focus, creativity, and creates jealousy. Who are you comparing yourself to? What does success mean to you? Your goals of success can be seasonal. I can say that’s what I wished to have 5 years ago, I sometimes wonder "why was I even praying for that…" My goals of success at one point was to only have money! I mean, it’s still apart of the goal but now it’s to be successful in being thorough, to be healthy, to be a good friend, daughter, sister, friend, and a good person to myself. Sometimes we have to redefine what success means to us because we’re often driven by wanting to win the mental competition with someone else; while that someone else is either miserable or simply happy and not giving a flying pig about you.
What does success mean to you? What is stealing your joy? Who are you becoming envious of? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying don’t have inspirations, goals, and ambitions. I’m not saying become complacent with mediocrity. I am saying love yourself enough to not kill yourself with the comparison of what the next person is doing but set realistic goals for yourself, stay in God’s face and ask Him "what’s next?"
Scriptures to Consider 1. Galatians 6:4-5 Each of you must examine your own actions. Then you can be proud of your own accomplishments without comparing yourself to others. Assume your own responsibility. 2. 2 Corinthians 10:12 We wouldn’t put ourselves in the same class with or compare ourselves to those who are bold enough to make their own recommendations. Certainly, when they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves to themselves, they show how foolish they are. 3. 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands, as we commanded you. That ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing.
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