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Quote: "I’ve been called a bi$&@ before! It doesn’t move me."

I’ve learned that sometimes we love, hire, and deal with ungrateful people. Sometimes they’re not thinking twice about their actions, temporary desires, or they have no control of their unwarranted temper tantrums. Nowadays we have a few folks who don’t understand the essence of respectful communication. The text messages may keep things in perspective until we have a conversation at the right time. We then will have learned that there has been blurred lines in many instances. Some of us lack integrity with our loved ones, employers, colleagues, etc. The entrepreneurial/leading woman has to some how maintain her grace, not act emotionally, be fair, expect/demand excellence from herself and her team, write a check for hardworking people and maybe ungrateful people, and then deal with complaining from slow growing or stagnant people. We may even believe in people more than they believe in themselves. We hire people who have chatter behind our backs when knowing that you’ve been generous to them. We love men who need mentors and don’t know how to communicate with a graceful woman. Let alone, don’t like to be taught how to love a woman. Yet we remain loyal to them when you can walk in a room full of other men who would love the ground you walk. How to do you maintain sanity?

Ignore Child Like Behavior

People who don’t know the difference between career moves and money moves are not ready to work hard and THEN play hard. They usually come in already ready to take vacations when not having proven their work ethic. They may often have “fluctuating attitudes.” People who aren’t clear of their purpose may have the potential to leave. Quick resume’ builders like to dibble and dabble to name drop fast. Don’t bank on potential and don’t hold them at fault for simply not knowing what they want to do. You’ve been in this space before. Sometimes the hat of being a female entrepreneur is like playing mother/big sister to some you hire. Draw the line and keep a balance.

2. Have A Sounding Board

Ask outsiders about your reasoning. Don’t be afraid to be told that you’re wrong and their right. Accept fault and responsibility for your actions. Make the necessary adjustments. These are growing lessons for you, the betterment of your company, and a self sufficient team. You’ll later have peace with accepting your areas of improvement and will love having being able to walk away from situations with integrity. Sifting and discerning will be successful for you.

3. Understand That People Will Leave You

Prepare your heart or get some tough skin. There are some decisions that you will have to make and decisions that they will have to make. Not every connection is for a lifetime. Some are seasonal and may only last a few weeks. The last thing you want to do is know the dream that God has given you, and one of you hold each other hostage of moving forward just because they’re not equipped or assigned to that next level. This is both for work and for love. Sometimes God takes away what we aren’t giving up. I’d actually prefer He do that.

4. The Employer and The Employee Have Great Differences

Understand that the person writing the check has different ways of thinking. There are only a few that you may work with who may understand you. They won’t understand certain decisions that you’ll make when it’s your money they’re spending or that’s covering a budget. However, Love and understanding should come from the intimate/personal relationship not always from the business relationship. Knowing the difference allows us to not get our feelings hurt when dealing with people who may only be in it for the moment and not to grow. They’d understand it better when it’s their money. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself all of the time in order to be nice. Be like NeNe Leakes, “I said what I said!” Make the decision and keep it moving. Your integral way of doing things and how you treat others should give you peace that you’re doing just fine.

5. Stay Sane

Do whatever it takes to not lose your mind. Don’t rush love. Don’t let social media rush your process. Remember we only post what we want people to see, not the whole story. Have time to retreat and be with God. He’ll give you answers on how to move and who to move. Make sure you have family and friends so that if you have children, you can play hooked and have a quick moment to yourself. It’s necessary! You will be rewarded for your sacrifices and generosity. However, the rewards may not come from those you’ve given the most to. As my Daddy Would day, “Hang In There!”

Scriptures To Consider:

Colossians 1:29

For this purpose also I labor, striving according to His power, which mightily works within me.

1 Thessalonians 4:11

and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you,

2 Timothy 2:15

Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth.

1 Timothy 3:1

It is a trustworthy statement: if any man aspires to the office of overseer, it is a fine work he desires to do.

Hebrews 10:35-36

Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.

1. Pay Yourself (Ecc. 5:18-20)

Commit to paying yourself per week. Start an account that you will not touch and pay this account like it’s rent or a mortgage. No activity. Don’t touch it. It can be as small as 10-20 dollars per week or a month! We all know the bigger the better. Have the discipline to treat yourself. My grandfather once told me that if i get a dollar i should always keep a quarter. Don’t spend everything you have! We should all have an emergency fund. Do you have one? If your answer is no, then you should start an account TODAY and try his method! Thank me later.

2. Play Broke & Learn To Say No (Psalm 128:2)

Just because you have it for yourself doesn’t mean you have it for everyone else. As a single woman, I’ve gracefully accepted the title of being a single woman. I don’t have it because I’m all by myself honey! I need every pinch of change. If someone wants to treat you, accept the offer. Just because you have it, doesn’t mean you have to spend it. Learn to accept the blessings. Don’t be “leechy” but accept the generosity. A large percentage of Americans uses about 40-60% of their income on eating out. During my SistHER mentorship, I told my mentees (SistHERs), “If you really wanna go out, grab a saucer and just ask everybody at the table if you can taste what they have.” You will have had a full entree with no bill! 😉

3. Cash Envelope System

Leave the credit cards at the crib! Leave the debit card too. Only take cash for the day. Give yourself a budget and only have it in cash! I repeat, “only have it in cash!” If you have no more cash for the day, then you’re done. That’s it. Take yo’ tail back home, rest your feet, and eat some chips. Act like a college student.

4. Invest

Invest in a mutual fund or a certificate of deposit. Find other ways to store your money, other than our local banks. To see that we can find higher interest on what’s being saved, is a better way of living.

5. Adapt A New Mentality. Leave a legacy!

Age has nothing to do with this. If you’re 15 or 45 and you want to start up a business these tips are for you. A lot of young people have vision and don’t know where to start. I’ve seen so many young people with a great gift and it goes toward the streets (Proverbs 13:11) because they didn’t know where to start with their gifts of flipping and saving money. Don’t run through money like water. Don’t be okay with growing a life having to worry about money. Invest in life insurance. God forbid, but when it’s time, let your loved ones grieve properly not having to do go fund me accounts. Go over how much money you spend on a habit. Weed, alcohol, shopping, etc. how much money could you have saved? Evaluate how good of a manager you’ve been so far. Pay people their money back. Don’t keep digging holes of having to owe people money. You already have bills to pay, and so do they! (Romans 13:8/ Proverbs 22:26-27)

6. Honor God with What You Have (Luke 18:12)

Last but not least, honor God with your increase (Proverbs 3:9). Sometimes we often feel like we have a hole in our pockets because we aren’t honest with our money. We don’t give God his tenth. So, he makes sure he’s securing his bag too. LOL (Malachi 3:8-10) In what ways, are we investing it back into the kingdom or honoring God with what he has given us. I’m a cheerful giver and so give to others. (2 Corinthians 9:7) I give to my home church and other ministries that have blessed me to advance the kingdom in hopes to extend their reach. I pay my tithe and I’ve never cried broke in addition to being a good manager of my money.

I’ll share more tips on how i saved my first 100k in my early 20’s in the next blog and YouTube channel. It’s time to save. Some of us are posting the good life on social media while crying broke behind the screens and filters. Save some money aside so that you can see the world and enjoy the fruits of your labor. You work hard, you should play hard to. Or maybe you’d like to start a business, buy a home, or whatever it is. You must secure the bag in order to take steps. Truth be told, financial stability often allows us to be at peace mentally and physically. Secure the bag so that maybe you can get away!

1. Stop Complaining, Start Adulting, & Be Grateful!

Lord forgive me for complaining and seeing what I don’t have, more than what I do have. Over the past few weeks I’ve waddled in poor behavior like a sobbing spoiled child comparing myself to others, knit picking, and not seeing the goodness of your works in MY life. 2. Take A Break From Social Media

With social media being a part of our careers/ lives we can often get lost in the sauce by simply seeing what the world wants us to see. We forget that there are real lives that exist behind the screens and filters. We create imaginary competitions and false presentations of faith until we disconnect from purpose and the ultimate source of our very being. We build our brands on teaching others until we forget to teach ourselves; or make time for us to become students! We stop going to church and allow the 1 minute clips become our pastors or we live our lives through our favorite influencers. 3. Have a plan, Go to work & get PAID!!!

People who aren’t living in purpose, or who don’t have a plan, usually are more prone to wasting time. People who aren’t good with money have higher stress levels. People who aren’t clear of their purpose or identity are easier targets for the enemy, to be distracted, or weaker in the fight. Work and get some days off. Enjoy the fruits of your labor. Save a lot and spend a pinch! 4. Maintain Your Faith & Spirituality

God I’m talking to YOU! I’ve fallen short. I’m adult enough to admit it and fearful of You to accept it so that I can move forward. I’ve neglected time with You. I’ve often gone straight to social media, work, loved ones, etc. the moment I wake up. How dare I?! Today I ask for your forgiveness. I ask that you get me back to this place of when your Love overpowered and outshined everything else. Help me to live with the mindset of gratefulness, in action and in deed. Father I am simply grateful today for your love and kindness towards me. Forgive me for my sins. Please transform my heart and help me to remember that Jesus is yet to return and to not get too comfortable in this life. Help me not to ignore the “eternity that you’ve set in my heart”. (Ecc. 3:11) Though I’m apart of an era of religion/spirituality isn’t the most popular thing, help me to keep my God-Awareness. Help me to be grateful in the process, remember your promises, and not rushing to find answers elsewhere. Don’t allow me to knock myself out of your course. I am grateful for the gift that led me the job. I’m grateful for the job that gets me the income. I’m grateful You’re the ultimate source of it all and without you none of this is possible. Today I put back on the mind of Christ and that is of a servant and not a celebrity. Thank you! Again, I’m grateful! 5. Accept His Forgiveness

Walk in it! Practice the confidence in knowing that your Heavenly Father will not leave you! (Hebrews 4:16) 6. Resist The Bad Vibes

People who strong arm bad vibes, maintain good days. Keep a smile on your face. Applaud yourself for your efforts and keep it short with any bad company, negative, or inconsistent energy. Usually the “smilers” get smiles back! Walk through the day smiling knowing that God is with you!

Don’t feel bad. Some don’t cling to you because of your disposition and standard alone. It puts a demand on them, that they won’t put on themselves. Some people are attracted to what they’re most comfortable with. Some run to what makes them better and some run to what keeps them mediocre. Sometimes what we stand for and don’t tolerate leaves our phones from receiving less calls. When you’re not included, don’t take it to heart. You’re just different. People often notice more potential than we see in ourselves.

A higher calling on your life, leaving you to often be force to learn the behavior of a loner. However, I find that some loners are some of the most secure people. You’re self sufficient. More in sync with God, your body, and spirit. Take the time and appreciate the few that are as balanced as you. See what parts of yourself should be nourished. Ever feel alone? Maybe you’re disconnected from friends and family. Sometimes God uses a woman to be the portal to get you here. Sort of like the story of Moses. Some people aren’t capable of raising kings and queens. Don’t take it too personal.

Break through and become the whole being that you’re called to be. You may be misunderstood. Some things has everything to do with God’s plan. In his plan there’s always a plan for you to heal and be emotionally stable. Honor that and keep evolving!

Scriptures to consider:

Deuteronomy 31:6

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Psalm 27:10

“Though my father and mother forsake me, the Lord will receive me.”

A woman has super powers. She carries human beings in her body and pushes them into destiny. She can love a man into purpose as a mother or a wife; can love a sister or daughter with unforgettable lifelong lessons. She can soften a strong man to see the other side. She can build a home with her words, wisdom, and developing a nation.

Open up heaven with her relentless prayers and faith. Can make that money with her fast mind and build empires with her persistence. The power that is within you can make anyone in the world believe in themselves and in a new start. The generosity of a woman keeps legacies alive. She’s naturally nurturing. In her business and in her home, she’s naturally building others up.

She often forgets of herself having given so much to so many around her. She musters up the faith to continue to love and transform the world one by one, after pain. Her pain tolerance is of a warrior. She brushes off a cold while a man needs the world to stop at one cough. She carries a fragrance and a grace that calls the attention of a room as if there was a loud sound released in a space.

Culture is built around her sense. It’s inspired by her strength. She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future. God is within her, she will not fail. Woman don’t forget to love yourself. Give time to yourself!

You’ve pushed through brokenness to get to healing. Without the “I’m proud of you” you’ve gone forward! You’ve owned your bad decisions and have allowed God to turn them into good. You’re crowned with wisdom because you’ve learned to forgive and still love again.