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Don’t Kill Yourself Trying

You only have what’s inside of you to give. Don’t force, or exhaust, yourself to give anymore than what you have to give. Do your best!!! Reach for the skies, but don’t push too hard because it may hurt you. Very often I would sing and pick myself apart afterwards. I would judge how I did by how the crowd would respond. For years, I would walk off stage and live in my mind asking “Was that good enough?” Or always finding the person who seemed to be the most uninterested and judging how effective I was.
Sometimes I would spot someone on their phone, walking out, etc. LOL I laugh at myself now because out of hundreds and thousands of people I would spot a handful and say, “It wasn’t good." Do you often pull the negative more than you do the positive? It’s very easy for us to do.Lately, I’ve come to terms with the fact that everything I do, should be as if it’s only me and God. Yes yes yes! Serve people. But keep in mind, people get excited or are often driven by feelings. Feelings fluctuate. This includes us.So, maybe you’re an artist, entrepreneur, teen, wife, husband, mother, etc. no matter how old you are, we all experience these feelings of inadequacy. I want to affirm with you that you have what it takes to be successful within your own right. You’re validation is not determined by the response of people. People change. You do too! A friend once told me, “Find the one person in the crowd who seems the most excited and sing to them like it’s your last chance.”
I want to encourage you to do the same. Who pours into you and loves on you? Who gives you truths that sting but with some honey? I ran with this advice and I feel good about it every time. Find the one who appreciates you the most. But even they may be fickle. So, define success as you grow and by what’s in you. Yes! You’ll have to stretch yourself in life, but let God show you when it’s time for the next level. Don’t dress up your gift. Cultivate it. Stay true to who you are and know that you’re amazingly equipped with the necessary tools, time and grace to be all you can be. If they don’t appreciate it, go where you are appreciated!!
P.S. if they aren’t happy, always leave being able to say “I tried my best” or “I did all I could!”
Scriptures to Consider:
Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. Colossians 3:23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters…
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Getting Past Mistakes

Philippians 1:6 being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.Galatians 5:1It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.Lord help me to find freedom in you. Help me to change and be delivered from those things that keep me stagnant. I’m sorry for anything that has hurt you or anything that has put a wedge between us. Thank you for not holding me hostage of my past. I’ve probably said that a lot of my past were from mistakes but honestly, they were simply poor decisions. I want to be mature enough by not making any excuses for what I may have done to offend you. I want to grow in you and experience more depth so that I can say no when I need to. Please complete your work in me and guide me on moving forward. Give me the grace and freedom to deal with it and be done with it. I trust that this is your will. Give me strength to fight against being a victim or a slave of my past. Anyone or anything that try and keeps me there, move it/them from my life. I declare over my life, I will not become a victim of options or the past. So, let it be. Amen.
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Dead or Alive. I’m Lovin’ You!

If death came, would they have known that I love them?
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." ~ Romans 12:9-10One week I had taken a long break from social media and meats. I noticed how much I naturally go to these things as if it was apart of my breathing pattern. While removing these two things, I was able to see how I very often can be stuck in a room, living on my phone with social media not paying attention to pertinent moments around me. Interestingly, these things came as second nature to me. While removing this from my regimen, I begin spending time with my loved ones a bit more. Noticing more about them. Hearing them say things that someone should hear in order to know what to pray for. I went for a walk to absorb some sunlight, fresh air, and didn’t realize how refreshing this experience was for me and my well being. Considering what seeing God’s glory could do to my faith and what vitamin D could do to my skin. I then noticed the time that I don’t always give myself. I’m often unable to hear what my soul and body may be telling me. Hence, I had time to love on myself, my family, and friends. God blesses us with amazing people who often are assigned to us with solutions, prayer, healing love, and guidance. I made myself available to those who were worth my time. I said yes to those I love and enjoyed myself immensely. I made time for God at the top of my day and throughout. I thought to myself, if something were to ever happen to any of them they would know that I love them. Have you shown those around you that you love them in action and in deed? If you were to lose them today, or they were to lose you, would they know that you love(d) them? So many people lose loved ones and aren’t able to move forward. Is this because of only their deep connection, or because of what they could’ve/should’ve been to them?
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This Is America

Can we talk about this Childish Gambino?! I loved the video! It was simply powerful to use entertainment as a vehicle to connect with a universal message. It’s unfortunately exactly what’s happening. A joke? #thisIsAmerica the underlying dark tones in the music to help translate the message while the new sound of what we call “hip hop” connects the message to the current listener to grab their attention, along with the Smokey undertones and grey colors in the video to tell the story, with explicit actions of unjust murder and the oversight of what happens in one day while we’re immediately on to the next current dance and/ or inspired by lack of Knowledge and creativity, is just brilliant. I know that was a huge run-on sentence, but this video says so much! I often find it hard to find inspiration/correction from some of today’s music. It was just right, but so sad that this is where we are. It’s not only prayers that will make a difference but our actions that will work as a domino effect.This inspired me to be a more educated force in this nation. It frightens me that so many are leaving leadership and guidance to develop their own ideologies and religions to make it fit for them. Leaving us with no backbone. We were once intrigued by profound messages or serious matters. Some of us are afraid to go to church because of the mass shootings that are repeatedly happening. Is there a way to watch and pray? What aren’t we seeing that’s sliding right by us? We think that young people are so caught up in something else while in all truth, many of them are completely aware but not interested. They’re able to sit and hold a new level of intellect and conversation because of the capacity of information that is given. Yet they’re not clear of what to do with it because of the age/time of which they hold it. This is a frightening space. How do we win those we are trying to win/influence without mocking them? How do we get their attention? While some of what interests them can be highly frustrating, what enemies can we keep close to know the plot but to protect a people? This powerful narrative speaks clearly of where we are. I hope it spoke to you too. There were signs in this. Questions to ask ourselves:How serious are you?Are you walking in purpose?Who will my purpose effect?Will my purpose effect those who are called to lead the masses?Though we’re in the end times, how can I be a powerful agent in the earth to bring awareness or to be somewhat of a preventative agent?Am I often taken as a joke or a fly by night?What do I stand for?Are you living what you’re preaching?Do we get clever ideas and not live it?Who’s village are you apart of? How are your helping to raise that child?Did you show someone this video and have a conversation with them to hear their thoughts? What did you notice?#kierrasDevotion #childishgambino
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Tips For The Working Woman: Love & Work

Quote: "I’ve been called a bi$&@ before! It doesn’t move me."
I’ve learned that sometimes we love, hire, and deal with ungrateful people. Sometimes they’re not thinking twice about their actions, temporary desires, or they have no control of their unwarranted temper tantrums. Nowadays we have a few folks who don’t understand the essence of respectful communication. The text messages may keep things in perspective until we have a conversation at the right time. We then will have learned that there has been blurred lines in many instances. Some of us lack integrity with our loved ones, employers, colleagues, etc. The entrepreneurial/leading woman has to some how maintain her grace, not act emotionally, be fair, expect/demand excellence from herself and her team, write a check for hardworking people and maybe ungrateful people, and then deal with complaining from slow growing or stagnant people. We may even believe in people more than they believe in themselves. We hire people who have chatter behind our backs when knowing that you’ve been generous to them. We love men who need mentors and don’t know how to communicate with a graceful woman. Let alone, don’t like to be taught how to love a woman. Yet we remain loyal to them when you can walk in a room full of other men who would love the ground you walk. How to do you maintain sanity?
Ignore Child Like Behavior
People who don’t know the difference between career moves and money moves are not ready to work hard and THEN play hard. They usually come in already ready to take vacations when not having proven their work ethic. They may often have “fluctuating attitudes.” People who aren’t clear of their purpose may have the potential to leave. Quick resume’ builders like to dibble and dabble to name drop fast. Don’t bank on potential and don’t hold them at fault for simply not knowing what they want to do. You’ve been in this space before. Sometimes the hat of being a female entrepreneur is like playing mother/big sister to some you hire. Draw the line and keep a balance.
2. Have A Sounding Board
Ask outsiders about your reasoning. Don’t be afraid to be told that you’re wrong and their right. Accept fault and responsibility for your actions. Make the necessary adjustments. These are growing lessons for you, the betterment of your company, and a self sufficient team. You’ll later have peace with accepting your areas of improvement and will love having being able to walk away from situations with integrity. Sifting and discerning will be successful for you.
3. Understand That People Will Leave You
Prepare your heart or get some tough skin. There are some decisions that you will have to make and decisions that they will have to make. Not every connection is for a lifetime. Some are seasonal and may only last a few weeks. The last thing you want to do is know the dream that God has given you, and one of you hold each other hostage of moving forward just because they’re not equipped or assigned to that next level. This is both for work and for love. Sometimes God takes away what we aren’t giving up. I’d actually prefer He do that.
4. The Employer and The Employee Have Great Differences
Understand that the person writing the check has different ways of thinking. There are only a few that you may work with who may understand you. They won’t understand certain decisions that you’ll make when it’s your money they’re spending or that’s covering a budget. However, Love and understanding should come from the intimate/personal relationship not always from the business relationship. Knowing the difference allows us to not get our feelings hurt when dealing with people who may only be in it for the moment and not to grow. They’d understand it better when it’s their money. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself all of the time in order to be nice. Be like NeNe Leakes, “I said what I said!” Make the decision and keep it moving. Your integral way of doing things and how you treat others should give you peace that you’re doing just fine.
5. Stay Sane
Do whatever it takes to not lose your mind. Don’t rush love. Don’t let social media rush your process. Remember we only post what we want people to see, not the whole story. Have time to retreat and be with God. He’ll give you answers on how to move and who to move. Make sure you have family and friends so that if you have children, you can play hooked and have a quick moment to yourself. It’s necessary! You will be rewarded for your sacrifices and generosity. However, the rewards may not come from those you’ve given the most to. As my Daddy Would day, “Hang In There!”
Scriptures To Consider:
Colossians 1:29
For this purpose also I labor, striving according to His power, which mightily works within me.
1 Thessalonians 4:11
and to make it your ambition to lead a quiet life and attend to your own business and work with your hands, just as we commanded you,
2 Timothy 2:15
Be diligent to present yourself approved to God as a workman who does not need to be ashamed, accurately handling the word of truth.
1 Timothy 3:1
It is a trustworthy statement: if any man aspires to the office of overseer, it is a fine work he desires to do.
Hebrews 10:35-36
Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what was promised.
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